The dating coach for finally getting what you want.
The coach who helps you find him, read him, and keep him — without losing yourself in the process.
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The dating coach for finally getting what you want.
Every other “dating help” app does optimization — rewriting your lines to sound more like someone else. Ellie does the opposite. She learns who you are, and coaches you to sound more like you.
Three unhurried conversations. She asks about your history, your patterns, your ideal match. Then she uses that knowing to write your profile, pick your photos, and sharpen every message you send.
THE DIFFERENCE
Other apps optimize strangers. Ellie coaches you.
“What does this text actually mean?” “What do I say back?” “Is he pulling away or is that just me?” Screenshot the confusing one. She'll tell you what's really going on — and write the reply that gets you what you want.
BONUS
Mid-date panic? Slip to the bathroom. She's in your pocket.
Prep with her before you walk in. Voice-note the walk home. Wake up to her honest read — what actually happened, what you did differently, what to text when he reaches out (he will).
THE PAYOFF
You stop guessing. You start knowing.
Voice, not chat. Memory, not goldfish. Real coaching for dating apps, texting, first dates, and everything after.
I'M LISTENING
YOU'RE SAYING
“...and then he just stopped texting after the second date, no explanation, and I'm sitting here wondering if I did something wrong...”
SHE LISTENS.
Ellie asks real questions about who you are, what you've been through, and what you actually want. No typing. No forms. Real human pacing.
A LETTER TO YOU
APRIL 18, 2026
Sarah,
You spent 25 minutes telling me about Hinge before you said a single thing about yourself. I noticed.
You are not picky. You are clear. Those are different things — and the difference is the whole game.
You don't need to be smaller to be loved. Stop apologizing for caring.
yours,
Ellie
SHE WRITES.
After the Interview. In her own words. The artifact you'll screenshot and send to your group chat at 11pm.
POST-DATE DEBRIEF · JAMES · #3
YOU TOLD ME
“It was good I think? He seemed into it but I'm never sure. He mentioned my sister's wedding.”
Here's what I think.
SHE REMEMBERS.
Prep with her before. Voice-note the walk home. Wake up to her honest read — plus the follow-up to send when he texts.
Most “dating help” tools rewrite your messages to sound cleverer. Ellie learns who you are first — then she coaches you like someone who's been in your corner for years.
Try it. Love it. Or get a refund. ❤️
After your 3 free days. Billed monthly.
The stuff you tell Ellie — your patterns, your exes, the one you're still processing — is the most sensitive data you'll ever give an app. We treat it that way.
Not to advertisers. Not to data brokers. Not to anyone. We make money from you paying $19/month, full stop.
Your conversations with Ellie don't get dumped into someone else's AI. What you tell her stays between you and her.
Your Interview, your dates, your screenshots — all encrypted on our servers. Even we can't casually browse your chats.
One tap in settings. Full export of your data first if you want it. We don't quietly keep a shadow copy.
“I spent two decades in women's health. I know what happens when sensitive data is treated carelessly. We will not be careless with yours.”
— Kirsten
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“I spent two decades running a women's health company. I'm obsessed with preventing needless suffering.”
The hideous experience most people have on dating apps is needless, too. All of us just need someone to help us navigate the journey to partnership.
Kirsten Karchmer · Founder, Higher Love
Read the full story →Isn't this just another dating app? −
No. We're not a dating app — there's no swiping, no matching, no profile to fill out. Ellie is a coach who works alongside whatever apps you're already using (Hinge, Bumble, etc). She helps you show up better on them, read what's happening, and actually land the relationship.
Is this therapy? +
What data do you keep? +
Does Ellie really remember me? +
Is this for queer women too? +
The coach who helps you find him, read him, and keep him — without losing yourself in the process.
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